I was so much more confident about myself pre-motherhood. When our bodies change it can have a negative affect on the way we feel about ourselves. I wasn’t prepared for the stretch marks, soft breast tissue and saggy stomach skin that pregnancy left behind. I have never gotten back to my pre-baby weight-no matter how hard Iv tried Iv never managed to shift those last few kilograms. I would drag myself down with my negativity about my body and my personality.
I use to question someone’s intentions when they complimented my outfit because I thought that I would look so much better if I was thinner. I would sabotage my self-worth, questioning whether they were being sarcastic or genuine.
When someone compliments you just thank them and take a minute to feel good about yourself. Make it a habit to tell your family and friends what you like about them and point out their strengths. We are all our worst critics and learning to accept positive comments and making positive comments about other people is a good way of encouraging good feelings in yourself, and rebuilding your confidence and self-respect. Talk kindly to yourself. Make a list of the things that you like about yourself or the person that you want to be and stick them to your fridge. It might look something like this:
- I am a kind and thoughtful person
- I deserve respect
- I am the queen of my house
- I am not better than anyone else, and nobody is better than me
- I am strong and capable
- I can love and I deserve to be loved
- I have a good soul
- I can achieve anything that I put my mind to
- I am in charge of my happiness
- Positivity is a choice
- I am prepared to succeed
- Individuality is good
Be the sort of person that you want to meet. Positivity has a powerful effect.